Tuesday, November 30, 2021

LIVING WITH ROOMIES AND THE GREAT SIDE HUSTLE — DISPELLING MYTHS WITH MARIAM


Good day and welcome to Haven.Inc, we'll be talking to a kind and gracious host, Fadahunsi Mariam Olajumoke, a student and enterpreneur.


Our chat started with a shared hatred for cockroaches, their smell, and almost everything related to their being and existence. It turns out that Mariam is a witch (lol!) Armed with a broom and a very bright torch, she goes about killing cockroaches in the dead of the night, disrupting her roommates who are trying to sleep.


This happened so much that they poked fun at her when she wasn't around, saying they enjoyed their sleep in her absence. Of course, she took it all in good grace. And that's Fadahunsi Mariam for you, a gracious host.

While chatting with her on WhatsApp, I asked her what it was like to have roommates, if it was all doom and gloom like like most say, and with her permission, I'll share a bit of what we discussed.


tokedeeliyanu: But how's it living with roomies? Don't think it's an easy thing. Cos I can't imagine, honestly.

Mariam: Oh it is [easy]. I also hated the thought of living with people. [But] we basically haven't had even one fight for the three years we've been staying together.

tokedeeliyanu: Wow! How come?

Mariam: Well, I figured it's because we don't really share things. Like we each have our own gas cylinders, plates and whatnot. We ask for permission to use each other's things and it's really easy.

 
 

 (She continues) We wash our plates together with all other dirty plates when we want to go wash ours. Cook food for everyone when we want to without asking for a dime; Anybody sweeps, no complaint. It's really not a problem. And if you see us sef, we'd be gisting and laughing and coming through for each other.

tokedeeliyanu: I see friendship, I see love, I see independence, I see care, I see respect. No pressures, nothing in return.. it's beautiful Mariam.

Mariam: Exactly how it is!

Indeed, as it always should be. Thanks most kindly for letting us share your story Mariam. We hope it helps inspire others to be better people and roommates, and also pick up lessons from your friendship.




tokedeeliyanu: And one more question. How do you combine business with your education? How did your side hustle come to be?

Mariam: My side hustle originated from my nature, I love being busy doing something that yields a good result. I hate being idle and all this bothered me during the pandemic break. I pretty much had so much time to sit around doing nothing and it felt like a disease to me (😂) Well, idleness is a disease health-wise.



(She adds) There was also the fact that I was legit broke [lol!] so I kept complaining to my family that I needed to do something to earn money. So one day, I complained again to one of my brothers and he proposed that I get into the perfume business just like my dad. Personally, I decided to add a few other segments but why not start small with perfume?

So I got to work and gathered perfume pictures, started my advert, started selling immediately the lockdown was eased. A few friends patronized me, i I decided to open an Instagram page with help from a friend, and a Facebook page as well. Had my brand logo made and my branded bag. I also pre- ordered goods from China with the money I made from selling within that short while.


tokedeeliyanu interjects: [Wow!]



Then it was resumption time, I had a considerably large amount of money and got a lot of perfumes to take with me to school.
That was really how it all started. [Not long after], my brother needed a secretary for his logistics company and hey, I have a good reputation in the family, I'm pretty much a very principled person so I'm trustworthy, not to brag.

So voila! I landed the job and started working with the company, keeping records and money, balancing up accounts and all that. I even received job offers from a few people to work as their secretary too which I turned down.


[When] school resumed and it wasn't easy to handle all that at once. So I figured I'd be at school on weekdays and resume work at the office on weekends as a part-time employee.


Of course, I also worked for the company while at school, but with my gadgets. It was stressful, it still is, especially since I have more responsibilities back home but I believe I've found a balance in between everything. [But] I'd rather be this busy than have to sit around doing nothing all day.


tokedeeliyanu: Truly truly indeed. Thank you once again Mariam.





Mariam is currently a 300-Level Physical and Health Education student of the Lagos State University, a scholar extraordinaire with an enviable business acumen. She once made a most memorable presentation on the whole-part-whole method of teaching that I didn't forget in a hurry. It was so clear to me in the exam hall more than others (lol!) I guess we can say a professor in the making. She going places, do watch out for her. 

Sunday, November 28, 2021

OH! BUT THE THINGS WE HAD

So many things in life I wish that people had

Not the physical, not the material,

But something spiritual

But we speed through life leaving a blur

And many times we fall to the floor

Oh, the things in life I wish we had

Not these things that turn to rags

Looks deceive, things decrease

So many things in life I wish we had

Not these things that turn to rags

This I pray, peace receive..


© el-iyanu

I HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY

 

(If I Speak, Would You Listen?)


I have something to say,

But if I tell you, will you listen?

If I told you it's true, would you believe?


If I broke it down, would you agree?

If I was wrong, would you still respect me?

If you don't agree, would you still love me?


I have something to say, 

But if I advised you, would you listen?

But maybe I'm wrong and need to listen..


You have a lot of friends you're proud of

A list of achievements you're ready to flaunt

But maybe you should be careful

Not everyone loves you, my dear fool


They know where you were

They know where you are

Hating, getting green with envy

Even I who loves you sometimes wonder

If you should be this open, my brother


But if I advised you, would you listen?

I have something to say, would you hear me?


© el-iyanu

THE BOY WHO TOLD A PROVERB

When I was young, I went visiting a friend

We stayed together and played a while:

Mother in the room and siblings around.


Chatting together and playing console,

I guess I must have stayed a while.


He went in and came back out,

Not long after, he told me a parable.


About friends who don't overstay their welcome,

And how much he loves them so.


Dear friend, I got the message, 

Who doesn't like being loved?


Not long after, 

I said my greetings and took my leave.


This is the story of the boy who said a proverb;

Why do I say this now, you wonder?


I must have offended another without a proverb—

My actions, sometimes, I don't understand.


But I always hope to keep things plain.

Dear friend, I'm sorry if I drove you off.

Sometimes, I act a little rough..


© el-iyanu

LIKE SUDDEN RAIN (YOU WENT AWAY; I FELL FOR YOU)

I fell for you like sudden rain

You went away and left me pain

I'm going crazy, going insane

And life will never be the same


My heart is bleeding you left a stain

Do you play me, I think I'm game

And what is there for you to gain

I have nothing more then to say


There's a crime you have to pay

For the role you had to play

(And a role you have to play)

On your knees go now and pray

To God your sins for him to save


Come back now my heart and save

For all the love I had and gave

I won't be proud now I can beg

For your love to see again


I hope your heart I can regain

For life will never be the same

I hope you see now for your sake

That life will be never be the same


I hope you see now for your sake

That nothing in this world can make

Me forget now about our love

And all the problems it did solve


How it made me now evolve

Around your sun do I revolve!


I fell for you like sudden rain

You went away and left me pain

I'm going crazy, going insane

And life will never be the same..


© el-iyanu



I'LL SHINE

 Seems like I've been underrated all my life

I wonder the kind of man I'll be if I had a wife

I wonder if I miss out on many blessings

Cause I rather avoid the pearls of many lessons

Like I'm way above what you teach


I know it, even if it's not within my reach

Does my nature deceive you?

Think I'm Lake Placid behind my eyes?

There's a fire raging in my heart—

It's in my mind, the power of Living Water!


Perhaps I tend towards things softer

Doesn't mean I'll take whatever's on offer

I'm gentle because I've seen rougher

And God's my shield, my very buffer


But life's a lesson, everything's an usher

To let us into high places like a butler

Don't look down on me, partner

But incase you do, I shined my shoe

My shirt may not be starched (yet!)

But just incase you do, I shined my shoe..


And if you do, you'll look at you

And I'll look at you, looking at you

My head up high, I'll touch the sky

Flying high, like a star, I'll shine.


I'll shine.

But maybe again I do

Like I over-do sometimes

Overthink things

I apologize

But like I said, I'll shine..


© el-iyanu

MOTHER IS A DEITY

Mother is a deity

But God is the greatest..


Pay homage to the God of men

Bow your heads you sons of men

Praise the King, the God who lives

Hail your mother, God's own queen


The price she pays above all

Prays so hard you don't fall

Stands so strong like a brick wall

God is the greatest

But mother is a deity


I wonder where she finds the energy

To keep it all together in synergy

She has no work-allergy

Mother is divine

No long strategy


I take one moment to bless my mum

O God, hear the prayers of her son

Adding it all together in love

At the end of days, a great sum!


For God is the greatest

But mother is divine

Mother is a deity

And God is the greatest!


And I take a moment 

To honour the men

Who swallow their pride

And in integrity remain..


But mother is a deity

And God is the greatest!


© el-iyanu

Tuesday, November 23, 2021

IYANUOLUWA (A Miracle to Mankind) by Dasho Elizabeth

  



A loyal friend

A man who pays attention

Don't have many friends

But many call him friend


His smiles brightens your day

And his attitudes keeps you out of worries

Charismatic and respectful

He knows honour

He's a gift amongst men


Good with skills

Best when teaching the skills

A man made me cherish Tennis

Cause he never gets tired of teaching me

when the course seems difficult

He made tennis fun


Even when I didn't understand it

He guided me through

Motivations and encouragement

Had no choice but to learn it


I call him my coach

 indeed he his

incredible, loving and great

The sport field has always been fun

Yes fun with IYANUOLUWA


You are a miracle to mankind

You are to me 

Thanks for making sport fun 

Thanks for cheering me up 

Thanks for looking out for me 

I'm grateful

I'm glad I'm your friend 

Happy belated birthday

IYANUOLUWA.


©Dasho Elizabeth




Composed by Comrade Dasho Elizabeth Adeola, currently a 300 Level Health Education student of the Lagos State University, LASU. She's a dear friend and sister, and her words are kindly tailored and fit to a tee. She truly took out time to measure me. I'm perhaps not as patient sometimes (lol!) But this means a lot to me. Thank you kindly Dasho, I am amazed.

IN ALL WE DO

Clarity of a dying man

Cruelty of a living one

Emperor of justice

Emperor of doom

In all we do

Is there a better way?


© el-iyanu

Saturday, November 20, 2021

THERE WAS A MAN

Once upon a time was a man

Who had a heart of gold

He sacrificed his own

To ascend the throne


Where your treasure is

There you heart is

His heart was fixed

It turned to gold


He had the world

But craved the throne

He lost his heart

It turned to gold


He schemed and schemed

Turn lead to gold

He lost his heart

It turned to gold


Once there was a man

Who had a heart of gold

He sacrificed his own

To ascend the throne


He took the plunge

But lost it all

A heart of gold

For another man's throne


Once there was a man

Who had a heart of gold

He sacrificed his own

To ascend the throne


A rebel he was

His heart to stone

Dropped in a river

He sank like stone


An abomination

Cursed he was

Forever to fall

And none his own


For there lived a man

Who had a heart of gold

Eyes for the throne

He sacrificed his own

To ascend the throne

He betrayed his own


What you sow

Shall you reap

Count your blessings

Before you sleep

Learn a lesson

Before you slip

But if God's for you

He'll raise you too


Sold out to ambition

Says for child unborn

A high noble

Low and ignoble

Weep not for him

He made his own


For there was a man

Who had a heart of gold

He sacrificed his own

To ascend the throne

He reaped what he sowed

He was sacrificed

For the peace of the whole..


© el-iyanu

Sunday, November 7, 2021

STEADY HAND (CLOUDED INTENTIONS)


Refrain:
Need a steady hand, intentions clouded
Oluwa guide me, I no wan looseguard me
I for say make you save me
But you don already save me
Almighty guide me
Make I no looseguard me


Iyanu:
Baba take the wheel I pray
Smoke just dey block my way
I try again and again
Smoke just dey block my way
Where I wan carry myself put
If no be hand of God like suit
Need a steady hand wey fit
Carry me up like lift
Cause smoke just dey block my way
Baba take the wheel I pray
Smoke just dey block my way!


Rahma:
Need a steady hand, intentions clouded
Many many things wey dey man mind
How to live, and how to do things right
And even when it seem like I'm loosing my mind
I run to You, You know my plight!
Open my heart and let me see your light
'Cause only You fit save my kind
And only you I fit rely on, every night and day
Take me higher, cause smoke just dey block my way
Even when it feels like I'm losing, like people say
Take the wheel
Smoke just just dey block my way!


Iyanu:
Baba speak for me
Na you bespoke me
Baba guide me
Na you tailor me
Baba fashion me
Make evil run for me
Baba cover me
Sand sand dey find garri
Na last dem wan make I carry
Alaye dem wan suck my blood
But in His presence will I tarry
Who again dey if no be God?
He's my resting place inside the storm!


Together:
Need a steady hand, intentions clouded
Oluwa guide me, I no wan looseguard me
I for say make you save me
But you don already save me
Almighty guide me
Make I no looseguard me
Only you I fit rely on night and day
Take me higher, cause smoke dey block my way
Even when it feels like I'm losing my way
Take the wheel
'Cause smoke just dey block my way...



With Yusuff W. Rahma
© el-iyanu

Wednesday, November 3, 2021

LIMITS

 Don't like it when people cross their limits

Like we're friends, but don't cross your limits

I may be patient but have my limits

Not saying a word, but you've crossed the limits


We showed them our place

They kept showing their face

Keep turning up whenever you like

I know for a fact that something's up


Saw it in your face the last time we saw

Your sly smile, like what you take me for?

But your ways I can't reform.


Each time you draw close, I detest you more

You're doing fine, how'd you survive before?

Mother's heart is golden, you can be sure 

She speaks to me, you can be sure


You took your troubles and went to her 

Like one friend before you, my gentle sir

Don't be like that, my gentle sir


A quiet message I sent him loud and clear

I may have to do the same for you, I fear

And I came to detest you, my friend.


Always taking, never give

When you're around, I ain't free

And I came to detest you, my friend..






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